Dating apps optimize for matches.
We optimize for the right one.

A new matchmaking practice in Switzerland, founded by a psychologist. Start with a free 5-minute assessment. Discover what matters most to you, how you connect emotionally, and what makes intimacy feel right — to understand not only yourself, but who you're most compatible with.

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You're ready to be chosen deliberately — here's what that means for you.

FSP-registered psychologist · every match reviewed by a person · Switzerland · confidential by design
How it works

Three steps, no swiping, no inbox full of strangers.

01

Take the assessment

Answer three questionnaires, carefully designed to assess your relationship patterns — 5 minutes, free, done from your phone. No profile to build, no photos to upload.

02

Get your personal report

An automatic, but personalized report exploring your life, connection, and intimacy — ready as soon as you finish. Self-awareness is the key to happier relationships.

03

Choose your next step — or don't

Your report is yours either way. If you want to go further: book a 1:1 Clarity session, or join the Reveal waiting list so we look for a match for you. You pay for the Reveal only if we find one. Nothing is charged, and nothing is added to any candidate pool, unless you choose to.

What's on offer

Three ways to use this — pick as far as you want to go.

Taking the assessment doesn't sign you up for anything. Your information only becomes part of an active matching pool if you explicitly choose the Reveal below.

The Assessment

A 5-minute self-assessment and a personal report. No cost, no obligation, no data shared or pooled — this step is entirely for you.

Take the free assessment

Clarity Session

A private 75-minute 1:1 debrief with Diana, a psychologist, couples therapist, and sexologist — to understand your report, uncover what may be getting in the way, and identify what you need to find a meaningful match. Together, you will explore whether you're ready to meet someone and who would be more compatible. Available online or in person, booked in small batches, at a pace that feels right for both of you.

Book a Clarity session

The Reveal

When we find someone who may be a match, Diana reviews both profiles herself. If she says yes, you each get a short anonymous description and the price. Only if you both say yes does she reveal the match, prepare you, and debrief you after your first meeting. You pay only when we find a match. Starts with a Clarity session. Currently a waiting list while we test demand, wherever you're based.

Join the Reveal waiting list
How the Reveal works

Reviewed by people, from start to finish.

Software can suggest a possible pair. It never decides, and it never shows you anyone. Every match is reviewed and managed by Diana, a trained psychologist.

01

Start with a Clarity session

A 75-minute 1:1 with Diana, so we know you properly before we look for anyone. When a possible match exists, you are both told and asked whether you would like to go on. If you haven't had a Clarity session yet, you book one.

02

A psychologist decides

Diana reviews both profiles and confirms or rejects the pair, with her reasons. If she says no, it is not a match: nothing is shown to you, nothing is sold, and nothing is charged.

03

You decide, then we reveal

If she says yes, you each receive a short description, with no name or photo, and the price. Only if you both say yes does Diana reveal the match, prepare each of you separately, and debrief each of you after your first meeting.

You pay only when we find a match, and only if you both say yes. Nothing is taken before then.

Why this, not another app

Built on psychology. Not on engagement metrics.

Dating apps
  • Optimize for time spent swiping
  • Anyone can message anyone
  • No idea if either of you is actually ready
  • You do all the filtering yourself
Choose Each Other
  • Optimizes for one good outcome, not more swipes
  • Starts with a real psychological assessment
  • Tells you honestly where you stand, first
  • A psychologist does the filtering with you
Diana Balaias, psychologist and founder of Choose Each Other
Your matchmaker

Diana Balaias

Psychologist (FSP member) specializing in couple therapy and clinical sexology. She's spent years helping couples understand what actually makes a relationship work — this is that same expertise, applied before the first date instead of after the wedding.

Master's in Psychology, Cognitive-Behavioural Interventions · Specialization in Couple Therapy & Clinical Sexology · English / Portuguese

Ready to find out where you stand?

Free, five minutes, with your personal report at the end.

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Questions

Before you start

Is this therapy?

No. The assessment and reports are self-development tools built on psychological principles — not a clinical or diagnostic service. If a Clarity session raises something better suited to therapy, Diana will tell you directly.

Is my data private?

Yes. Your responses are handled confidentially and are never shared without your consent. [Final privacy policy and consent language pending legal review.]

What happens after the assessment?

You get a free personal report by email. From there, you can choose to book a Clarity session (a full 1:1 debrief, online or in person) or join the Reveal waiting list — no pressure either way.

When do I pay for the Reveal?

Only when we find a match, and only if you both say yes. You don't pay to join the waiting list. If Diana reviews a possible pair and says no, you see nothing and pay nothing. If she says yes, you receive an anonymous description and the price, and you each decide. Nothing is taken until both of you have agreed.

Who decides who I'm matched with?

A person, always. Software may suggest a possible pair, but only Diana, a trained psychologist, decides whether it goes ahead. Everything from the Clarity session to the reveal and the debrief is managed by people.

Will taking the assessment sign me up for anything?

You'll get your free report by email — that's the only thing that happens automatically. We don't add you to the matching pool, share your answers with anyone, or sign you up for the Reveal unless you separately choose to. Occasional emails about your results or the service are fine to expect; being matched with someone is not, unless you opt in.

Where do I need to be based?

Anywhere. The assessment is open to everyone, and Clarity sessions are available online as well as in person. The Reveal waiting list is open wherever you live in Switzerland, and beyond — just tell us where you're based when you join. As the pool grows, we'll look for matches where good ones can be made.